If your partner wants you all to themselves, and stops you from seeing family and friends.
If they insult you, put you down or make unkind comments about you, or if they don’t listen to you or consider your opinions and feelings.
If they try to make you do things that don’t feel right, won’t take no for an answer, or use emotional blackmail to get their own way.
If they always want to know where you are, or constantly text or call you throughout the day and expect you to respond immediately.
If you feel frightened around your partner, or like you are constantly walking on eggshells.
If they gaslight you – trying to make you feel like the things you’ve experienced aren’t real, or make you question your sanity.
If they have ever been violent or aggressive, or made threats to hurt you in any way.
If they take no responsibility for their actions, instead blaming you or others.
If your partner displays any of these behaviours, then you may be experiencing domestic abuse.
It is important to speak to someone you trust, and access professional support if you feel able.
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IDAS is the largest specialist charity in Yorkshire supporting people affected by domestic abuse and sexual violence.