Many people will be reluctant to seek support, or they may confide in family members or friends in the first instance. Here are some things you can do if you are concerned or if someone close to you confides in you:
If you are worried about someone:
- Look out for warning signs of abusive behaviour.
- Check in with them regularly, a simple text message or phone call, if it is safe to do so.
- Try to find a safe time and place to talk honestly.
If someone close to you confides in you:
- Keep calm, reassure them that help is available.
- Avoid giving your opinion or making judgemental statements.
- Let them know that you are worried about them.
- Discuss the behaviour that concerns you. Avoid talking about the abusive person or calling them names.
- Ask if they feel safe or if they would like some help. You may be able to set up a signal or code word to raise the alarm.
- Give them IDAS contact details or make a referral with their consent.
What else can I do?